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He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
He's Just Not That Into You The NoExcuses Truth to Understanding Guys
Author: Greg Behrendt, Liz Tuccillo
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ISBN-13: 9781416909774
ISBN-10: 141690977X
Pages: 192
Edition: Reprint
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  • Currently 3.6/5 Stars.
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3.6 stars, based on 67 ratings
Publisher: Simon Spotlight Entertainment
Book Type: Paperback
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katharinetapley avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 12 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 15
This is a really good, really honest look at men and relationships. It tells women to stop wasting time on men that don't appreciate them. It boosts the self-esteem of anyone who reads it, and the writers speak from their own experience, not from a psychological point of view.
reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 41 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 14
I really wanted to read this after seeing him on Oprah... a year later it was a let down pretty much chapter after chapter of the same thing. That was probably the point, sometimes guys aren't into you get over it and move on. There aren't 100 explanations or ways to analyze their behavior it just made for a redundant read. It is a great book to give to someone who just can't get it through their head that sometimes he's just not that into you!
radhika avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 13 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 9
Not a book for me. It felt repetitive and at times too silly to even be funny. The phrase "He's just not that into you" can become very annoying after the first few chapters. However it is a fun read with all the little letters written for advice and his funny (or supposed to be funny) responses to them. Probably something fun to read with a friend so you can laugh at the situation and possibly even the advise.
KajunFriend avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on
Helpful Score: 8
I wish I had this book when I was younger and dating!
reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 2 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 8
This book is fantastic...I wish I could have read it as a teenager when I REALLY needed it!
reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on
Helpful Score: 8
A great book that explains why you don't have to try to figure out every male you come into contact with.
reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 2 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 6
This is a great book - really helped me let go of a guy who dumped me.
reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 35 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 6
Great book to read when you wonder if someone is really into you or not~
reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 2 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 6
Fun book to read in your 40's when you NOW get it!
jennyfurrr03 avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on
Helpful Score: 6
An amazing book that will help you get over that guy in your life that you keep making excuses for! It helped me. & it helped boost up my self-esteem. :]
Farscapegirl avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 180 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 5
I thought this book was funny! Even though most of the scenerios layed out in the book could be solved by applying common sense, it was a hilarious quick read. There were a few scenerios I read and said to myself "hmmm that was the same excuse I used for so-and-so...". Get this book if for no other reason than to re-affirm that you are a worthwhile female that deserves a real relationship that can go somewhere, or just get it to have a funny, laugh-out-loud read...Sex in the City fans will appreciate!
RobinVictoria avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 6 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 5
Unlike annoying self help books that throw jargon, sappy rhetoric, and uselss mumbo jumbo/ pity parties, this author uses humor and real life examples (letters from readers/individuals) to prove his point. It may be a little redundant at times, but for the girl in denial, sometimes redundant is what is necessary. While you won't find any deep psychological explanations or the answers to love, you will get a laugh, and you will learn if "he's just not into you".

I was in a relationship with a seemingly great "poor me" type of guy who wouldn't say the "L" word because his heart had been broken. So a friend gave me this book and of course there is a chapter in there about guys who can't say the L word...."BECAUSE THEY'RE JUST NOT INTO YOU", it hit home and was pretty precise. I kicked myself in the butt and then kicked his out the door :).

The book features funny stories about other girls with relationship issues who are just making excuses for the guy and in denial about things, and how the right guy is out there but you won't find him if your still wasting time on the wrong one. All in all this is a great book to subtly give to your girlfriends and daughters in bad relationships. It is so funny, that a friend won't stay mad for long :)
reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 94 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 5
Every single woman should read this and The Rules. I'm not saying that you should follow The Rules 100%, but between the 2 of them, you are a lot less likely to expend too much energy on the wrong guy.
reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 16 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 4
Every single man needs this book. It helped me sort through the losers and find my husband! It is such a funny read, I love Greg Behrendt's writing.
goofykixxass avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on
Helpful Score: 4
This book is hilarious and everything in it I agree with. I've told so many of my friends exactly what is said in this book but they don't want to believe that men really feel the way that they do. Great book to give to a girlfriend that is in need of a wake up call regarding their relationship with men.
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Helpful Score: 4
Read this book! Pass it around to your friends! This is honestly what every woman needs to hear. I think we've all been in that dating situation or relationship that left us wondering if we really ought to hang on. Greg Behrendt tells it to ya straight-- if you're continually stuck making excuses for his inability to make you happy and meet your needs, he's just not that into you!
nos4atu avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 35 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 4
A funny,witty book about relationships between men and women. The author will be appearing on his own guest show in 2 wks. A former consultant on the show Sex and the City.
cloverluv avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 129 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 4
Great book. A MUST For all young dating women.
k00kaburra avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 62 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 3
The book does make some decent points and clearly it is attemping to be empowering...but eh. Absolutely nothing in the book was mind-blowing, Earth-rattling news. I read the first few chapters, and skimmed the rest. He's just not that into you? Well, I'm just not that into this book.

(To be fair, I am in a healthy relationship, even by the book's standards, so perhaps I would be more amused by this if I was single.)
reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 10 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 3
Excellent book - I can't recommend it enough!
reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 14 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 3
I found this book pretty funny. I liked the way it was written, but it was also extremely helpful and honest. It was exactly what it said it is--The truth about guys.
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Helpful Score: 3
If you need some hard core reality, read it!
reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 11 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 2
Very funny! If I am ever having a down day, I pick this book up because the responses to certain questions are so bold and honest. It makes you realize the truth behind excuses and lies, and how we have all fallen for them at least once in our lives! A fun read.
jenvalet avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 47 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 2
This book is a good read for the girl who isn't sure she's found the right guy. I think it's highly amusing!
WISSA2278 avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 19 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 2
a great book to give to your friend (we all have at least one) that just plain doesn't get it...
reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 3 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 2
Not as funny as Greg Behrendt's stand-up comedy, but a good read nonetheless.
reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 80 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 2
Good book. Says the truth without being too rude or hurtful. Kind of like advice from a close older brother.
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Helpful Score: 2
I think they speak truth in this book!
reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 158 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 2
Repetitious but fun. Two people who worked on _Sex and the City_ encourage readers to forget about the guys who aren't up to par (because they don't call when they say they will, because they're married, because they're mean or petty or lazy) in order to be available to the guys who do things right.
reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 40 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 2
This book will help change your perspective on dating and relationships . . . don't settle for a guy who just isn't that into you! A must-read for any frustrated single or conflicted girlfriend.
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Helpful Score: 1
I really believe in the ideas expressed in this book. I don't think I could have accepted them a few years ago, but now (having been burned several times) it totally makes sense. I hope I can make use of it the next time I'm in a not-good relationship.
readerrose avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on
Helpful Score: 1
This book is so right on and true. It helped me from getting in the same trap that I put myself into and "think" that "maybe" it will work out and that I was not knowing his signals. What a life and heart saver this book is.
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Helpful Score: 1
wish I would have read this years ago, great book very informative
goldnyght avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 17 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 1
This book is funny, I'll grant, but if you actually need this advice you shouldn't be in the gene pool.
anothertag avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 85 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 1
a quick easy read on common sense....every point made is something we all know but just
stated that it is right there in front of you. the examples made are funny but true for some women. i picked this book up at the goodwill book section...don't think i would have paid the original $20 asking price.
sassyjo avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 6 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 1
I love this book!

Although it's done in a humorous way, women can learn a lot about men and relationships.
reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 49 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 1
I was just not into this book.... after the first chapter, you kinda get the point. Yet it continues. It's cute but it's not great..
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Helpful Score: 1
Full of good advice about boys that chicks just don't want to hear. Read it and stop making excuses for losers!
babyjulie avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 336 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 1
It might seem strange that I rated this three stars when I didn't finish it. I did that because this is one of those books that I can tell could actually *maybe* help people. Namely women. And believe me, I know women that, if they listened, could be helped by some of the info here in this book. So, I gave it the three because of that.
But, I don't need it. I don't let guys walk on me, I don't allow them to play games, and I don't sleep with random men for the hell of it and then think I'm their girlfriend. So, in essence, I guess I'm not in need of this.
I wasn't sure if this was real self-help or humor but after reading what I did I see that it's both. I had a little fun reading the first 10 or 20 "letters" to Liz and Greg and Greg's answers were snarky and humorous which I loved. But in the end, if you don't really need the help it gets old.
I will say this, in my estimate, going from the women I've know and know now, I'd have to say about 95% of them won't listen to a bit of advice given here. They're too far gone. I say we start handing this to middle school girls. Maybe then they'll be saved from a life of low self-esteem and letting some asshole walk all over them
reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 14 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 1
Hilarious and oh-so-true. This book should be required reading for teenage girls. These are lessons they can avoid learning the hard way. I loved it.
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Helpful Score: 1
Great book for girls who are hanging on to a guy thinking he will change. They dont. They are who they are and if it isnt what YOU want look elsewhere. Seriously.
heavenboundlj avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 232 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 1
This book was seen on the Oprah show. The author Greg has his own talk show now. It's a very good book and some girls really need to read it. It's simple to read and understand and really is pretty straight forward.
StephaniePlum avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 14 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 1
So eye opening! I have a friend that is going through this very thing right now and I want her to read this book so much!! I wish I had known all this stuff about ten years ago. Made me realize what is going on in a few of my "relationships" with a few guys in my life! Every girl needs to read this book!
JK avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 139 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 1
This book tells you how to stop kidding yourself and get on with your life.
lvp avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 41 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 1
When I first saw this book on pbs I was excited, I love self help books dealing with relationships, so I ordered it. When I received the book and read the contents I realized I'd been duped. This books title says it a book about understanding guys, but in reality it's a book on how to get out of a bum relationship and I happen to be in a great one, so it's going right back on pbs without a word read... If you're looking for a book that really explains whats going on in your man's head try reading Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus or For Women Only.
alliepoetesswitch avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 141 more book reviews
Helpful Score: 1
This book was awesome, filled with facts that really teach you why you shouldnt cling to the wrong guy and why its important to be on the lookout for the right one!!
I found this to be excellent because it was so true to life. Can't wait to see movie that will be based on this book.
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Helpful Score: 1
Great, blunt insight! Really helps when trying hard to get over 'mr. wrong', especially since its 1/2 written by a guy!
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Some of the reviews here take for granted the advice given in this book, but a notable mention in one of the most successful T.V. series of all time ("Sex and the City") and a full-length feature film with well-known actors should be enough to make us think about its popularity. Yes, it's true that AFTER you finally are in a monogamous and committed relationship the advice in this book sounds like "Duh!, of course, as IF..." (etc., etc., etc.) but the thing is that when you're still navigating the shark-infested waters of -what appears to be- permanent singledom, few other books can be as clear and honest as this one. It is not necessary to analyze guys to death. They give very clear signals, and this book will help you drill these into your brain.
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A very common sense book! Naming red flags we choose to ignore but are so obvious "after the fact".
jenninestg avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on
I really like this book better than the other books on break-ups because it really gets to the core of the issues, yet surrounds them with witty dialogue. Best of all the amazing transformation stories (of how the author was once just like you only now they're successful)are kept to a minimum. Really great read!
liamsgramma avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 25 more book reviews
I have read this great little book cover to cover twice, I have dog earred pages, highlighted, and I still go back for confirmation of things.
There is humor in the writing, I am a big Greg fan! but there is also a lot of no nonsense advice. Heed warning. Great Advice!!!
jenn97 avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 4 more book reviews
This is one of the most bold, blunt, down to earth books about men and relationships that I have read. It really gives some good advice. However, be prepared! You may find some information in this book that verifies things you may not want to be true if you are in a rocky relationship.
lvp avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 41 more book reviews
When I first saw this book on pbs I was excited, I love self help books dealing with relationships, so I ordered it. When I received the book and read the contents I realized I'd been duped. This books title says it a book about understanding guys, but in reality it's a book on how to get out of a bum relationship and I happen to be in a great one, so it's going right back on pbs without a word read... If you're looking for a book that really explains whats going on in your man's head try reading Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus or For Women Only.
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Having just gone through a difficult break-up myself, when I started reading this book it made me feel sick! I saw the signs that he just wasn't that into me years ago, but I made excuses for him, and wasted too many years on nothing! Thanks to this book, I think I'll recognize the signs for what they are if I ever find myself in that situation again. If you are in a similar situation, power through this book, even if it makes you queasy. It's easy reading, but insightful information.
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This was a really stupid book.
tracey13 avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 310 more book reviews
Fun to listen to their advice. Confidence boosting. You don't have to settle for being treated badly and yes, there are better men out there! A guy shares his view of what other guys mean by their behavior and words, usually if they aren't being nice to you it means "he's just not that into you". Kind of enlightening in a silly, funny sort of way. Entertaining and enjoyable, even if sometimes you cringe as you recognize those bad relationships you clung to for too long or that idiot ex-boyfriend you thought was so great at the time.
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Funny, and very black and white.
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A must read for single women.
shermtheworm avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 4 more book reviews
GREAT BOOK - All young women and old should read this immediately no matter what phase of a relationship they are in - another great one is "It's called a break up because it's broken." Loved this book! Keeping it as a reference! Great humor, EASY READ (I am extremely slow).
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I loved listening to this...it made me laugh when I could have been crying. It was fun and encouraging.
berd avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 214 more book reviews
The book was entertaining, but I think if you really want to know if a guy is into you, just ask him.
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Love this book!!! I think every girl who finds herself in the same situations with BOYS should be required to read this book! It is honest and funny, could make you laugh and cry. Plus you could read it in a couple hours.
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simple, honest, pretty funny
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It was great, funny and very informative! I only wish that I had read this way before I was married, because I wouldn't have wasted my time!
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Sometimes you need to hear what is in this book sometimes it's full of bull. Take it with a grain of salt not as gospel.
saturngrrl avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 9 more book reviews
At the beginning of the book I was like, "Eh... I don't know about this." But the longer I read the more interested I was. It took me only 3 days to get through it. I'd read it before going to work, at work, after work, before I went to bed. I couldn't put it down.
jmsgirl avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 4 more book reviews
Very easy to read and to the point.
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It was fun reading but I thought alot of the things in this book are things that we should already know.
landonsmama avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 51 more book reviews
Laugh out loud moments! Greg is real and I love his sarcastic sense of humor.
DimensionX avatar reviewed He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys on + 65 more book reviews
I really enjoyed this book. I had no intention of reading it, since I am married and have no need of dating/relationship advice...but I glanced at a couple pages, and I was hooked. I read the entire book in one sitting. Straight-forward, no-nonsense advice given in a light, humorous way. Bottom line: Every women deserves the best, don't settle for less.
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Self-help book for women!
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The 'Sex and the City' episode this is based on is more entertaining than the book. I know several girls that would benefit from it, but since the majority of my close friends are male I didn't learn anything new.
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I didn't really get into this book much. So I can't comment on it because I only scanned it.
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I didn't get a chance to read this book. I was going to give it to a friend, but it turned out she didn't need it.