A very informative book about dating, Why He Didnt Call You Back includes excerpts from interviews that the author has had with over 1,000 men and women who have responded to her questions as to why the first date didnt lead to a second date.
The book includes the famous quote by Albert Einstein, who stated that insanity was doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results. Thats apparently whats happening in the real world with dating. Men and women are doing the same (wrong) things again and again, and never finding satisfactory relationships no matter how badly they might want them.
The author points out that today people are more self-aware than ever before due to the rise of the self-awareness and self-help industry. Having read a book that excoriates this industry by Steve Salerno, I wonder if part of the problem is actually taking Dr. Phils advice and then realizing that it doesnt work.
The author breaks down the reasons for men not calling women back into reasons: the woman acts like the Boss Lady and she is argumentative and competitive rather than considerate; the blahs (shes boring); the bait and switch (mostly with respect to online dating where profiles are seldom what they seem); the Park Avenue princess (a spoiled woman who makes childish demands of men); the Closer (in which the date goes more like a job interview); the Flasher (way too much information for a first date); the Bitch in Boots (being rude to your date, the waiter, or anyone else); the Debbie Downer (being jaded and cynical); the Ex Factor (constantly bringing up ones ex); and the One-Way Street (everything is all about her).
The author offers some good advice at the end of each chapter/reason as to what women can do to avoid first date problems and get to the second date and beyond. The author isnt trying to get a woman to be someone shes not, but rather to get women to do some of the selecting by using appropriate comments and gestures to make men want to ask her out again.
