Understanding the unique world of the pastor's wife: Is being married to a pastor a career in itself? It seems that the pastor's wife is often expected to wear a variety of hats within the church. . .Suince she is frequently in the position of comforting others, to whom does she turn when she needs a listening ear? KAREN MAINS, LYNNE DUGAN, DENISE NELSON, AND JILL BRISCOE share from their experience.