Parenting Teens with Love Logic Author:Foster Cline & Jim Fay When kids hit their teen years, parenting takes on a whole new dimension. As they struggle toward independence and autonomy, some dicey issues emerge. And the real world you want them to be ready for can make you shudder -- kids today face file-and-death decisions long before they're on their own. — So what can you do? Hover over them so they ... more »won't get hurt? Drill them so they'll do the right thing? According to Foster Cline and Jim Fay, hovering and drilling won't prepare teens for the real world because they learn responsibility like they learn everything else: through practice.
That's where love and logic parenting comes in. Love means giving your teens opportunities to be responsible and empowering them to make their own decisions. Logic means allowing them to live with the natural consequences of their mistakes and showing empathy for the pain, disappointment, and frustration they'll experience.
When you parent with love and logic, it's a win-win situation. You win because you'll learn to love in a healthy way and effectively guide your teens, without resorting to anger, threats and power struggles. And your teens win because they'll learn responsibility and the logic of life by solving their own problems.« less