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A New Beginning: A Survival Guide for Parents of College Freshmen
A New Beginning A Survival Guide for Parents of College Freshmen Author:Kaye Bernard Mcgarry, M.Ed. "The much anticipated graduation ceremonies are over, and a new door is about to open," says Kaye Bernard McGarry, author of the newly updated book, A New Beginning: A Survival Guide for Parents of College Freshmen, in its 3rd edition. McGarry, a business owner, educator, and consultant, has seen her four children through their college years and... more » regularly gives seminars to help parents and new college students survive that tough first year and beyond. "Watching your children go off to college can be both exhilarating and scary," McGarry says. "You are proud of your children's desire to continue their formal education. At the same time you wonder if they are prepared to cope with the challenges ahead." According to McGarry, for many young people, going off to college represents the first time they are autonomous and not accountable to parents on a day-to-day basis. Some may revel in their independence a bit too much, which quite naturally is a concern to parents. "I believe parents must understand the realities of college life. Alcohol and drugs are always available and we shouldn't deny that crime on college campuses is a serious problem. Beyond that, many young people must cope with new academic demands while also learning to manage their finances and time." Her book, A New Beginning, provides a realistic look at campus life, but it also offers time management tips, a guide to getting the most from classes and study hours, and also helps parents and freshmen plan a budget. McGarry says that some students leave for college without a firm financial foundation. This may be their first experience with handling their finances, and if parents provide spending money, their children may need guidance to make the dollars stretch. McGarry also recommends setting financial boundaries and sticking to them. Some young people need to learn how to balance their checkbook; others may need to create a strict weekly budget. In addition to the practical advice about campus life, McGarry helps parents communicate with their young people, who may crave independence and balk at advice, while they continue to rely on parents for financial and emotional support. They may call home and say they're homesick or to complain about their roommate or their classes. McGarry offers advice about keeping lines of communication open while allowing their children to develop the autonomy and decision making skills they need to flourish in college. She describes communication styles sure to shut down a healthy give and take between parents and college freshmen and offers tips to leave lines of communication open. Above all, McGarry recognizes that parents worry about the way their children will handle their new freedom. "By the time our children go off to college, we have done our job," McGarry says. "We have passed on our values and provided love and guidance. Now it's time to trust them as they embark on their new adventure. Our job is to provide emotional support while at the same time, we let them go."« less